Mental health at Christmas: How to cope with anxiety and stress

We asked our expert practitioners from the Blues Programme for some tips on how to deal with emotions such as grief, financial stress, loneliness and managing expectations.

The Blues Programme is an acclaimed wellbeing programme for young people. Last year, our Blues Programme reached over 8,000 children, young people and families in the UK. With your help, we could reach more young people needing mental health support.

There can be many reasons why the festive season isn’t always an easy time for people.

During the holidays, we try to spend meaningful and quality time with our loved ones, and therefore if you’ve experienced a loss of someone dear to you, it can leave you feeling lonely and isolated.

We tend to put a lot of weight and importance on the holiday season, expecting it to always be joyous, fun, and without conflict. This is unrealistic at the best of times.

Step 1:

Try to not avoid thoughts or feelings about the person you have loved and lost. The more we try not to think about something, the more we will think about it. Distracting ourselves also won’t make the pain of the loss go away.

Step 2:

Speak to family members and friends and agree an appropriate way to include the loved one in the day. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, even just something as simple as sharing happy stories or memories, lighting a candle for them, or visiting somewhere special that reminds you of them.

"Honouring their life and involving them in a day that would have usually been shared with them can allow you to feel closer to them."

Step 3:

Speak to someone you love and trust about how you are feeling about the upcoming festive season. We can often feel we’re alone with these intense emotions, but we’re not.

It is important to think what is it about the festive season that you love? What feels special about this time for you? Lean into these values:

Is it about spending time with friends and family?

Think how you could do this in a way that doesn’t cost a lot of money, but still includes some festive spirit. You could you visit Christmas markets together, as opposed to spending money while there?

Is it giving and receiving gifts from loved ones?

Why not make a special home-made gift for a loved one? Often these gifts take more time and thought, which can feel special to the receiver.

Volunteering:

Volunteering is a great way to spend time with people during the festive season. Research shows that one of the quickest routes to happiness is being kind to other people. You could help many people who will be struggling during the festive period.

For example, people who are experiencing homelessness, refugees and asylum seekers, elderly people, and many other vulnerable groups are amongst those who benefit from kindness during the festive period.

Challenge negative thoughts:

Challenge negative thoughts that tell you that you’re the only one feeling this way, and that everyone else is having a great time. It’s important to communicate with our loved ones openly and without judgement. Let them know you’d like to spend time with them and give them space to share their feelings.

Last year, our Blues Programme reached over 8,000 children, young people and families in the UK and was rated a 4+ by the Early Intervention Foundation.

• 75% said they had increased confidence
• 73% increased self-esteem
• 81% were now able to talk about their mental health and wellbeing.

With your help, we could reach more young people this Christmas by giving them the tools they need to look after their mental and emotional wellbeing.